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How Do I Make New Friends?

When you’re a kid, it’s easy to make new friends—you simply go up to someone, ask him if he wants to play and start sharing his toys. For adults, it’s not always so easy. If you’ve moved to a new city, or are just starting over and want to add some new friends to your social circle, here are some tips.

mb-20Think of People You Already Know

Think of all the people you already know, or are at least somewhat acquainted with. Perhaps you once met the friend of a friend and thought she was interesting. Or you’ve had some interesting conversations with the barista at the coffee shop down the street. Some potential new friends could be:

  • Co-workers
  • People your friends know
  • People who work at businesses you frequent
  • Professionals in your field
  • Extended family members (cousins, spouse’s family)
  • People from church
  • Neighbors

Meet New People

Meeting and befriending complete strangers can be a bit trickier, but there are many situations in which you can make new acquaintances and chat with new folks:

potential new friends could be:

  • Parties
  • Meet-up groups
  • Seminars
  • Book clubs
  • Continuing education classes for your career
  • Classes for fun—cooking classes, foreign language, art, etc.
  • Free workshops at local businesses

Moving from Acquaintance into Friendship

mb-21Once you’ve met people you like to hang out with, it’s time to take the next steps toward friendship. Here are five tips for that transition:

1) Get people’s contact info early.

When you meet someone that you’d like to have as a friend, ask him or her for contact info. That way you don’t miss an opportunity later; you can always email, text or call.

2) Take the initiative.

Don’t be afraid to ask someone to go for coffee or hang out. Chances are, they’d like to ask you, but are too shy to do so.

3) Invite someone to a group activity.

You might invite a potential new friend to attend a party with you, or go to a class where there will be many other people. Alternately, invite several potential new friends and then see who shows up!

4) Have a specific plan.

One way to facilitate first plans with a potential new friend is to have a specific activity in mind. For instance, you might ask someone if she’d like to attend a concert with you, or a festival.

5) Have a vague plan.

Sometimes a specific plan doesn’t seem possible, or you might want to be more casual about the whole thing. Try asking an acquaintance if they’d be interested in going for coffee sometime, or catching a movie. If the response is positive, you can schedule something from there.

Handling Fear of Rejection


The tough truth is that not everyone will want to be your new friend. Some people are at stages in their lives where they are too busy to cultivate new friends, or don’t have much free time at all. Some might feel that your personality or interests are too different from their own. Here’s how to handle rejection:

  • Remember that it’s not life or death. There are lots of people in the world who would love to be your friend!
  • Think of all your great qualities and traits. If a potential friend rejects you, remember those qualities and know that someone else will appreciate them.
  • You won’t make new friends unless you take some risks. It’s worth it!

How Do I Make New Friends